Question: How old were you as a child when your parent(s) stopped waking
you up in the morning? As a parent - how old do you think your child
should be when they are expected to get up on their own? What reasons do
you have for those expectations? Really hoping for some chat here.
I realize some of this is obvious to some readers as we were in boarding school at least some of our school years - and had to get ourselves up. But when we boarded in elementary school how did we get up on time? I don't remember having an alarm clock until I was 7th or 8th grade.
This is a question I really struggle with. Stretch and Squirrel were both expected to get themselves up by 2nd grade. I remember Squirrel asking for an alarm clock - he would fight me when I woke him up but once he had his own alarm and knew how to set it he typically got up on his own. It was and still is rare for him to oversleep. Stretch was not one to oversleep either when he was still at home - he tended to sleep a little later than Squirrel but that worked out well for morning showers and shared bathrooms.
On the other hand, Dipstick has 3 alarm clocks and still struggles with getting up on time, letting alone getting up at all. Often his dad will holler up the stairs at him to get him up. This morning I asked him how long he expected to have a parent waking him. His answer (and it may have been intended to be a smart-aleck response) was "until I move out". Being as he is 16 1/2 almost I feel strongly that he should be the one to get himself up - without regularly being hollered at. He daily leaves for school without breakfast and sometimes not completely dressed - carrying shoes and socks into the car to put on on the way to the bus.
Really hoping for some discussion here - not as a bashing situation but for insight.
I realize some of this is obvious to some readers as we were in boarding school at least some of our school years - and had to get ourselves up. But when we boarded in elementary school how did we get up on time? I don't remember having an alarm clock until I was 7th or 8th grade.
This is a question I really struggle with. Stretch and Squirrel were both expected to get themselves up by 2nd grade. I remember Squirrel asking for an alarm clock - he would fight me when I woke him up but once he had his own alarm and knew how to set it he typically got up on his own. It was and still is rare for him to oversleep. Stretch was not one to oversleep either when he was still at home - he tended to sleep a little later than Squirrel but that worked out well for morning showers and shared bathrooms.
On the other hand, Dipstick has 3 alarm clocks and still struggles with getting up on time, letting alone getting up at all. Often his dad will holler up the stairs at him to get him up. This morning I asked him how long he expected to have a parent waking him. His answer (and it may have been intended to be a smart-aleck response) was "until I move out". Being as he is 16 1/2 almost I feel strongly that he should be the one to get himself up - without regularly being hollered at. He daily leaves for school without breakfast and sometimes not completely dressed - carrying shoes and socks into the car to put on on the way to the bus.
Really hoping for some discussion here - not as a bashing situation but for insight.
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